Dancing With Chaos

dancing with chaos

This series of words was very specifically chosen. Each one brings something unique that when it is all put together, hopefully gets across a message bigger than just the phrase itself. It is a little easier to understand however, if it is looked at in reverse order first.


This is in reference to the world we find ourselves in. Any event is really just a human interaction with either nature or another human. Every effort can be made to control these events, but ultimately all that falls within each individual’s control is what s/he thinks, speaks, and then does.

To try and predict it all would be a lot of wasted effort. Patterns arise and events repeat themselves, but ultimately there are way too many wild cards to effectively guess which way everything is going to go.

“Chaos” refers to the crapshoot that each of those interactions can be. Hopefully we are lucky enough to run into more positive than negative ones. Wishful thinking? Maybe. The way those interactions go down lead well into the next word.


Together. In unison. Cooperative (in a sense). An acceptance of the situation as it is. There is no higher or lower ground; one of the things we are good at doing as human beings is thinking we are always correct (we can’t all be right, right?). If we are getting pushed one way and always try with all our might to push directly back in the opposite direction, burnout and fatigue will kick our asses every day that ends in “y.”

I’m not advocating for being passive or submissive. What I’m saying is, rather than fighting a straight line of force with another straight line of force, look to redirect and turn, always looking for another way to manipulate that force working against you to work in your favor. Our egos, knowingly or not, may be in the way of letting us realize that there are other options besides ours that would work for us.


Rather than meeting brute force with brute force, you move around it. Twist, turn, jump, duck; all movements that when put together well, can be some of the most beautiful sights to see. It’s unlike a straight sprint, to see how fast you can get from point A to point B. It’s methodical, reactive, and graceful. The dancer takes the vibrations in the air and lets them guide, but s/he ultimately has the final say. The dancer finds a way to put the environment into the deepest part of her/himself and redirects that energy back out to let the world see that there is nothing too great to get in the way.

Dancing with chaos is all about recognizing the situations around you, and finding a way to manage it all without losing yourself in it. Grabbing onto every little thing and telling it where to go because that is where we want it is a sure fire way to make daily life a pain in the ass.

All we can control is what comes from within. If we try to stick our hands in other people’s being, or forcefully resist what the world has thrown at us, then we are meeting force with more force. One day, either one of these forces will win outright. Win as many battles as we may, our day will come when we lose control. At that point, we don’t know what to do. All we ever knew was how to sprint, never how to dance.

Each day is a blank canvas. The artist can choose to make with it whatever s/he desires. Each step is a stroke of the brush, a reflection of what the artist sees/feels and the response to it. If we make every step unique, our dance, our art, becomes magnificently unique. Each day will be different, each day will bring a new painting. If we can dance with chaos, move around the flame instead of into it, we can make each day our masterpiece. (Shout out to Coach Wooden)

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The Double Edged Sword

Google will be able to give you every kind of plan and resource when it comes to goal setting. This era of self-help has allowed people who are very good at organizing every possible thing a market to live off of. I’m not saying anything against all of that; SMART goals have their merits and I’ll admit I’ve filled out my share of worksheets. Speaking from experience though, I find that it is incredibly difficult to put the things I want to do and accomplish in a category or compartment, especially since my reasons for doing it are always changing.

Setting goals can be both the best and worst thing we can do. Yes, it does allow us to develop a road map and give us something to work towards. It at least keeps us productive and makes sure all of our efforts aim towards something much greater down the road.

At the same time, it can cloud our vision so much that we can miss opportunities that may change our entire outlook. We become so honed in, so focused on one singular outcome and point of arrival that we can neglect opportunity passing us by.

Consider driving a car down a foggy highway. Clearly, what concerns us most is the stretch of road lying directly in front of us. We make sure that it’s clear, and the more we focus on those several yards in front of us, the more we forget about what is going on outside of that little area.

In the same stretch of clear highway, we are able to see all that we were missing when we had just been focusing on the road in front. We can go by the same stretch of land and see things that grab our attention enough to make us stop, look and experience. There may not be a clear reason why we would make a stop, sometimes our curiosity is enough of an excuse. Our stop is short, but no matter how it goes, we make it a point to hop back on the road and continue the way we were going.

Granted, we probably get to where we want to much faster (and safer) by simply staying the course like we were when the fog was present.

In either case, what mattered most is that we kept making positive progress. We end up taking different roads to arrive at the same destination, but the manner in which we got there was completely different. The person at the end of that journey is much different in both scenarios. The stories you tell, your perspectives on the people you meet along the way, all of that changes because you were willing to sidetrack yourself, if at least only for a little while.

Success is rarely (if ever) a straight line. It is dependent not only on the individual but the circumstances surrounding her/him. Someone may have some of the best intentions and work ethic, but may not see or find the opportunity to allow her/his talents to flourish. What we may think is our best option at any point in time may only be the stepping stone to something that is truly made for us, not just something we “kind of” fit into or want.

If time and experience reveals a different road to take, let yourself make that change. It makes no sense to fight against it out of loyalty to some road that has been prescribed to you by generations past. That was their road to take. You, and only you, will have to live with the journey that you allow yourself to experience.

No one gets out of here alive my friends. We should give ourselves something greater to aspire to, and we should definitely do all we can to make that version of ourselves. Don’t resist or panic as you come off of that highway to investigate what those other opportunities might bring; so long as we get back on that highway and keep moving forward, we will always find ourselves exactly where we are supposed to be.

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